In Sheree's opinion relationships have a unique capacity to bring to the surface anything that is most unlike love.
Sheree and Somatic Rehabilitation help couples identify and work usefully with difficulties and challenges.
All relationships need a little help
Sheree sees this from both a personal and a professional point of view - her experience suggests that relationships are powerful catalysts for individual growth and change.
She notes that we seem to learn about love most usefully from within a relationship, and not before we have encountered the problems and challenges that can cause relationships to flounder.
How can Sheree help yours?
With this in mind, Sheree uses mindfulness and Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy to explore what is occurring in the present moment: we observe what is happening between partners and for each partner individually.
This gentle, yet powerful process of self-discovery, is designed to facilitate awareness about what is going on in the relationship. Ultimately, this can lead to greater intimacy for both partners.
This process goes beyond insight and into action: working in mindful awareness with what is occurring now can be a powerful catalyst for change.
Raising the issues
Couple differences tend to arise around needs, vulnerability and self-protection. Becoming aware of how these create patterns of relating and observing how this rolls out in the present moment, can provide us with useful information about our self and the other.
Finding pathways ahead
As we begin to use this information, we build our capacity for sharing and understanding, strengthening our relationships, expanding our ideas about who we are, and potentially creating greater intimacy for ourselves and another.
We are whole human beings: being able to bring more of ourselves into our connection with others potentially allows us both to deepen, and to flourish together.
Our scientifically grounded approach
Authors Lewis, Amini and Lannon in their book 'A General Theory of Love' write:
“From birth to death, love is not just the focus of human experience but also the life force of the mind, determining our moods, stabilising our bodily rhythms, and changing the structure of our brains.”
This view best sums up Sheree's approach to understanding, working with and being in relationship: the neuro-biological processes involved in attachment and behaviour play a much bigger role in what we create together as a couple, than what we realise.
Understanding how this combines within family systems and impacts human developmental processes, is vital to create understanding and compassion. In Sheree's opinion, this is what love and relationships are all about.
It's as simple and difficult as that.
There is no other way.